(And… obviously, but not so obvious to some, against therapy harm.)
Setting the Record Straight
Let’s clear this up right now… I am not against therapy.
I’ve sat in those chairs. I’ve done the work.
Therapy has saved lives… including mine.
It can be sacred, supportive, and life-changing.
But therapy is not the only path to healing.
That’s where the break happens.
When people assume that questioning therapy = rejecting healing, they miss the point.
I’m not against therapy. I’m against limiting healing.
And I’m calling out harm where harm exists.
Where Therapy Helps
Therapy can be…
- A steady lifeline in a storm.
- A place where someone finally listens.
- A structure that holds you in the chaos.
- A space to process, reflect, and name your pain.
I honor that. I don’t dismiss that.
Therapy works… and I support anyone who finds it healing.
Where Therapy Struggles
But let’s be real. Therapy has limits… and it struggles most with the very people who need it most.
- Plurality… The system still frames multiplicity as pathology…
- Complex PTSD… Long-term trauma doesn’t fit in short-term “treatment plans.”
- Attachment wounds… The cry for connection gets mislabeled as dependency or manipulation.
And beyond the clinical struggles, there’s the practical barriers…
Access. Red tape. Gatekeeping.
- Insurance companies deciding who qualifies.
- Months-long waitlists.
- Lived experience dismissed as “unprofessional.”
- Spiritual, somatic, and communal healing written off as “unscientific.”
Therapy can serve a purpose… but only if we name its limits.
Who gets help? What that help looks like? Who gets silenced?
Beyond Therapy… Integration, Expansion, Liberation
I’m not against therapy. I’m against the idea that therapy is enough.
Healing isn’t linear. It’s not confined to one relationship or one modality.
What about…
- Peer support and chosen family?
- Rage and tenderness held together?
- Spirituality, creativity, body-based wisdom?
- Mutuality and community care?
That’s where coaching and peer support come in.
Unlike the clinical frame, these relationships are humanized and real.
No pretending at neutrality. No hiding behind a clipboard.
It’s… “I’ve been there. This helped me. Want to try?”
Coaching with me isn’t therapy-lite.
It’s expansion.
It’s bringing your whole self… plurality, neurodivergence, rage, tenderness, survival brilliance… into spaces that don’t shrink you.
Both/And
This isn’t either/or. Both can be true.
- You can benefit from therapy and want more.
- You can honor your therapy work and recognize its limits.
- You can seek support outside the system without betraying the parts that needed therapy to survive.
My Stand
So no, I’m not against therapy.
I’m against limiting healing.
I’m against the harm that happens when systems confine, silence, and pathologize survivors.
I’m against insurance companies deciding who gets care and for how long.
I’m against gatekeeping that dismisses lived experience as “unprofessional.”
I’m against red tape that makes healing inaccessible.
I’m against telling plurals and survivors of complex trauma that they are “too much.”
I’m calling out harm… not to destroy healing spaces, but to demand better ones.
Because here’s the truth…
Therapy can save lives. But it can also wound when it refuses to stretch beyond its own walls.
What I’m For
I’m for healing that’s wild, rebellious, multiple, embodied, soulful, creative.
I’m for tenderness and rage.
I’m for therapy… and beyond therapy.
🔥 If you’ve outgrown the therapy chair… or you’re ready for healing that doesn’t fit inside 50-minute boxes…
Let’s talk.
My coaching isn’t here to replace therapy.
It’s here to expand it.
To integrate what you’ve learned and reclaim the parts therapy couldn’t touch.